Hey folks! I know this may be a but out of a blue, but I wanted to talk about being independent and dependent.
Note: This is no way professional and there is a very high chance of me being wrong. I have just come to this conclusion after some stuff I have been through and what some people I know have been through.
So, I think that as long as you find a healthy balance between being dependent, the effects can be different.
I believe that life is a constant cycle of cause and effect.
Being dependent isn’t necesarily a bad or good thing, you just have to find a balance. Dependecy can be just because of someone’s personality, things they have been through, and other things.
Dependent people are seen as clingy, weak, and other things. (This doesn’t have to be true.)
But, one tip I want to give to everyone is that relying on people comes with risks.
I don’t want to come off as harsh and at the end of the day, it’s fine if you do depend on someone. And I promise that I do not have bad intentions but rather just want what is best for you. Also, please remember that there are always exceptions to everything.
The thing is that when you depend on someone, you start to need them. And the thing is people leave. They manipulate you, break you down, hurt you and so much more.
Not every person will do this but there is a chance.
You put yourself at risk for losing control.
Don’t get me wrong, being in a relationship is great and all, but when they become your reason to live, your source for money, only reason you feel good about yourself, and other things like that it starts to become toxic.
No one owes anyone love, money, satisfaction, etc. (There are exceptions of course, such as parents, guardians,etc) and getting all that not from yourself but from another person can be unhealthy.
If you do rely on a person to make you feel better about yourself, try to work on your self-confidence and bond with yourself. If you rely on a person for happiness, find a hobby or more interests and start to bond with yourself (you’re gonna see me mention that quite a few times.) because at the end of the day you never leave yourself.
The only thing I want you all to remember is that there is always another solution.
You are more than allowed to rely on someone or not rely on someone and if you and that person are safe, healthy, and doing okay, then it’s all good.
Anyway, thank you so much for reading. I’m sorry this post may be a little controversial, offensive, or just downright false. I just wanted to talk about this as it just popped into my head.
Remember that you are loved and will forever be valid. Make sure to stay hydrates and eat a meal or two while you’re at it.
Also, feel free to write your own opinion about being dependent in the comments, but please try to be nice!
Have a great day/night and stay safe!
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